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部分 1 的 3:面对错误
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承认错误。犯了错误之后，首先要做的就是承认错误。人们总是会找借口来解释自己的所作所为，好让心里好受一点。但如果想要别人原谅你，你首先就要承认自己做错了，并且不再试图辩解。
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摆脱情绪。不要把情绪作为借口，比如你当时十分生气，你就可能会把愤怒作为自身犯错的借口。但你要知道，只有首先承担了责任，你才能够真诚地向对方道歉，至于他接不接受，那是他的事。[2]
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提前写好想说的话。这不是为了在男朋友面前读，而是为了让你不再试图解释自己的行为，或是自我辩解。这样可以使你更好地承担责任，做出补救。[3]
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部分 2
部分 2 的 3:和他谈谈
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不要拖延。大多数人面对不喜欢做的事情总是会拖延。然而，你应该尽早道歉，越晚他只会越生气，也越受伤。
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选好时机。不要在男朋友看球赛或读书的时候找他道歉，要选他空闲的时候，问他是否可以谈谈。如果他已经知道你做了什么，他可能就会猜到你想谈什么，但不一定猜得到你会道歉。[4]
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表示后悔。你的语气和态度都要表明你对自己的所作所为真心感到后悔。不要试图打哈哈或者是开玩笑，要看着他的眼睛严肃地向他道歉。[5]
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比如，你可以说：“我真的真的为我所做的事感到抱歉。”
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承担责任。同时，你还要在他面前承认自己做错了。这意味着要说出自己错在哪，以表示你清楚自己做了些什么。[6]
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比如，你可以说：“我知道拿你开玩笑伤害了你的感情，我在说之前就应该想到，你对那件事情很敏感。”
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谈谈你打算怎样做得更好。在最后，你要表示以后你会做得更好，这会让事态开始好转。你无法让时间倒退，但你可以和他谈谈以后你会怎样去改变自己的行为。[7]
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在道歉的最后，你可以说：“下次我不会再这样说了，我应该对你更好些。我爱你，也尊重你，我会用行动来证明这一切。”
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倾听他的回应。如果是第一次听你这样说，他可能会感到有些生气。你要让他发泄出心中的愤怒，不要试图去辩解。他需要有机会来谈论这件事，哪怕他确实清楚你在为什么而道歉，他仍然需要谈谈自己的感受和这样想的原因。因此，你需要给他机会，让他说说为什么你的所作所为伤害了他。[8]
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你可以问：“你对我说的这些是怎么想的？”
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承认他的感受。最后，表示你理解他的感受，并表示自己在认真倾听，也理解他为什么难过。[9]
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一个方法就是重复他所说的话。比如你可以说：“你说我那样开你玩笑让你觉得受到了轻视，觉得自己不受尊重，我完全能理解你的想法，你也完全有理由这么想。”[10]
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部分 3
部分 3 的 3:放下过往
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给他空间。有时，当人们真的受伤了，或是非常生气的时候，是需要一些时间来平复的。他可能会需要几天，甚至是一周来认真思考整件事情，从而使自己平静下来。[11]
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不要争论不休。如果你想要他原谅你，争论是不可能解决问题的。一旦你已经道歉了，就不要再继续讨论这件事了，争论谁对谁错是说服不了他的。[12]
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给他惊喜。如果你想做点什么来表达你的歉意，那就给他一个惊喜。你可以做一些饼干或送他一件有意义的礼物，这样能表示你仍然在乎他。
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所有人都会犯错。你需要他来原谅你，好让这段恋情继续下去，这没错，但同时你也要原谅自己。每个人都会做错事，你犯的错其实可能并没有那么严重。就算是，你也不应该不停责怪自己。[13]
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这不代表你可以完全忘记自己犯了错，你应该吸取教训，在以后做得更好。
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他不是必须要原谅你。尽管你非常希望他能原谅你，但没人有义务这样去做。如果无法得到原谅，你就要从这件事中吸取教训，放下过往，另外开始一段新的恋情了。[14]
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